Changing Our Minds

Today I read two accounts of people whose parents passed away and left them a legacy of guilt. Linda Kriger writes of the lifelong effects parenting has on a soul as David Solie concurs in his blog.

After several years of reading research related to the subconscious mind, selective memory and the unique perceptions we each bring to any given event, I have to wonder if the suffering we do in the name of guilt is even necessary.  If particles are only tendencies, as Quantum theory asserts, wouldn’t it make sense to rewrite our history in a way that serves, rather than severs?

In his book How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success, John Gray leads us through a writing process that can heal the deepest of wounds with the people in our lives who we let hurt us the most.  The process makes sense when we recognize that our memories may not be 100% accurate, or that we are the only ones responsible for getting our needs met, or that we would rather live a life of joy than desperation.

Did our parents make mistakes?  Of course.  Can they make our lives a living hell?  Not really.  That’s up to you.

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