Choosing positive vs. Denying negative

There’s a huge distinction between choosing positive and denying negative.  One empowers, the other, at the very least, confuses.

Here’s an example of difference in the case of an elder relative’s changing needs. In fact, that statement is an example.  Choosing the phrase “changing needs” is choosing a positive view of the situation, as opposed to a negative view of “declining”.  I’m choosing to see this as changing needs and doing so helps to keep me in a proactive frame of mind to look for modifications.

Now if I were denying the negative, I would be more apt to avoid or overlook what needs to be done because I am not allowing myself to see the changing needs. The opposite of denying the negative is not necessarily seeing the positive. Changing needs might not even be on my radar, because I am focused on avoidance rather than viewing the situation as it is.

The first example puts me in action, will get results.  The second example doesn’t allow for action, because there is nothing to be modified if I deny it’s existence.

When you choose to be positive about a situation that others see as “bad” or “negative”, you have accomplished several things.

  • You feel better about what is happening because you see solutions
  • The people in your care feel confident and reassured
  • Positive energy is replenishing, where negative is draining, so you automatically create more “hours” in your day

The importance of this distinction is so you can create situations that are uplifting and nourishing while tending to what needs to be addressed.

So go forth and choose positive.  You don’t have to deny a thing when you’re pro-active.

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