What to Do (or How to BE) With a Diagnosis of Dementia

Your mind races anxiously to the future. It basks in the comfort of the past. How will we cope? What does this mean for everyone involved? How will I feel when they no longer know me?

It would be unusual to not have a reaction like that to news that indicates your beloved parent/spouse/sibling/friend is facing this profound change.

But where do you go from there? After the realization, the procsessing, the shock. All too often, people don’t move past the sadness they feel. This has dire consequences for……………………everyone.

Tension increases, patience is tried, depression, loneliness and hopelessness prevail.

Once enjoyable visits focus on what isn’t there anymore and become burdensome. Guilt creeps in.  Resignation. “This is how it is”, you tell yourself. “I can’t change it”.

It’s not this truth that creates your sadness. In fact, it’s this truth than can bring you peace, if you let it.

You have the power to choose how you approach this. When you begin to question your choice of feeling bad about dementia, you can begin the process of understanding that you can feel good, I mean really really good, about it.  There are gifts in everything we experience. It’s up to you to seek out those gifts.

This may feel like an insurmountable voyage at this point. It’s not.

I’m not going to suggest you take this “one step at a time” as convention wisdom tells us. I’m going to suggest you approach this with all the strength of your being.

You choose your thoughts. You have the power to change your current choices.

How is feeling bad serving you? Others? What benefits are derived from being devastated?

Please consider these questions from the point of view of your highest consciousness.  You have the love and wisdom within you to create peace in all areas of your life.  You have the ability to shine your light and model this for others.

Here’s one way to shift your feelings:

  • Assess your current feelings/reactions/fears about this situation. Assess, don’t analyze.  Be real.
  • Close you eyes, as you feel your way through this.
  • If you feel like you’re about to cry, attune to the energy that is moving through your body just before the point of tears. 
  • Follow the energetic sensation with your full attention. Leave no room for thought.
  • Stay there until you have fully accepted this energy as part of  you.
  • Now take a deep breath and state, aloud, your new intention.

Stay with it. Write it, record it, read it daily!  Be kind to yourself, let your kindness flow to others.

For more ways to create and retain a frame of mind that will naturally guide you through this and all the challenges you face in your life, visit Ageless-Sages.com.

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One Response to What to Do (or How to BE) With a Diagnosis of Dementia

  1. Very useful advices, thank you, I see my mom have similar symptoms so this is quite good for me.

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