As we get older and the patterns of communication we have with our parents might feel like a law of physics: An irresistible force meeting an immovable object.
If your relationship with your elder parent continues to bring frustration and you’d prefer it didn’t, what can you do to change the pattern?
I’ve been giving a lot of thought lately to the idea of creative deconstruction. What’s not working that you haven’t previously considered? Do you engage in the same types of conversation time and again? Why would you expect the outcome to be different?
Do you think the other person “needs to change”? What needs to change within you so that you don’t have the need for someone else to change?
Changing the laws of physics is not possible. Changing the equation, however, is.